Co-Parenting Coaching
Co-parenting after separation or divorce can feel overwhelming, confusing, and emotionally charged, especially when you’re worried about how it might affect your children. Many parents come into co-parenting coaching feeling anxious about making the wrong decisions, struggling to communicate with their co-parent, or unsure how to protect their kids from conflict.
Co-parenting coaching offers a supportive, structured space to help you move from conflict to cooperation, so your children can feel secure, supported, and free to be kids.
- Communicate more effectively
- Reduce conflict and get on team kiddo
- Make agreements and decisions that prioritize your child
- Create consistent routines across both homes
- Be a united front and keep your child out of the middle
- Hold boundaries and increase accountability within your co-parenting relationship
- Become more attuned to your child’s needs, feelings, and experiences
- Create a parenting plan that grows with your child
- Develop a clear, caring script to tell your children about divorce and reduce trauma
It’s not the divorce that hurts kids, it’s how you do divorce.
My Approach to Co-Parenting Coaching
Going to co-parenting coaching is one of the most meaningful gifts you can give your children. Many parents seek support because they’re worried that separation or divorce could cause lasting harm. Transitioning from being married or partnered to co-parenting can feel overwhelming, filled with fear, grief, and uncertainty about what comes next.
I provide a personalized, attachment-based approach to co-parenting coaching that supports your unique family system. You’ll gain the tools, insight, and confidence needed to navigate this transition while raising secure, well-adjusted children, because they deserve the best, and so do you.
As your therapist and coach, I guide parents toward becoming a cooperative co-parenting team. Together, we work to let go of past hurts that fuel triggers, criticism, and defensiveness. We explore how attachment styles shape co-parenting dynamics and develop communication strategies that reduce reactivity and increase clarity.
By shifting from conflict to cooperation, parents are better able to make decisions that truly prioritize their children, keeping them out of the middle and helping them feel safe, understood, and emotionally secure. Children thrive when they have at least one secure relationship with a caregiver, and co-parenting coaching teaches you exactly what your child needs to feel secure and supported, even in the midst of change.
This work is grounded in the Six Cs of Cooperative Co-Parenting:
Commitment, Collaboration, Clarity, Consistency, Connection, and Community.
These principles are rooted in Attachment Theory and are outlined in my book, Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids.
Together, we build a stable, nurturing environment where your children can flourish across both homes.
How Co-Parenting Coaching Helps Families
Co-parenting coaching focuses on outcomes that directly support children’s emotional well-being while also helping parents feel more grounded and confident.
Parents often notice:
- Reduced conflict and emotional escalation
- Clearer communication and stronger boundaries
- Greater confidence in parenting decisions
- Smoother transitions between households
- Improved emotional regulation for both parents and children
- Increased cooperation, even in high-conflict situations
- Children who feel safer, more secure, and less caught in the middle
Co-parenting coaching is not about perfection, it’s about creating a predictable, caring structure that allows children to feel secure, even when family dynamics change.
Is Co-Parenting Coaching Right for You?
Co-parenting coaching can be helpful whether you’re newly separated or have been co-parenting for years. It’s especially supportive if:
- Communication with your co-parent feels tense or unproductive
- Your child shows signs of stress, anxiety, or behavioral changes
- Transitions between homes feel difficult
- You want to reduce conflict without involving your child
- You’re navigating blended family or step-parenting dynamics
Some parents participate in coaching together, while others come individually. Coaching can be effective even if your co-parent is unwilling or unable to participate.
For parents who also need relational or emotional support, co-parenting coaching can complement couples therapy or individual therapy.
FAQs
No. Parents may attend together or separately. Coaching can still be effective when only one parent participates, especially when the focus is on boundaries, communication, and child-centered decision-making.
Co-parenting coaching is especially helpful in high-conflict situations. The focus remains on what you can control, your responses, boundaries, and parenting choices, to support your child’s emotional safety.
Co-parenting coaching focuses specifically on parenting dynamics, communication, and decision-making after separation or divorce. While it is grounded in therapeutic principles, it is not legal advice and does not replace court or custody processes.
The length of coaching depends on your goals and family needs. Some parents benefit from short-term guidance during transitions, while others choose ongoing support as their family evolves.
While coaching focuses on parents, the primary goal is to support children’s emotional security. When parents communicate more effectively and reduce conflict, children benefit significantly.
Yes. Co-parenting coaching is available both in person in Los Angeles and online throughout California.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you’re navigating separation, divorce, or an ongoing co-parenting relationship and want support that truly prioritizes your child’s well-being, I invite you to schedule a free consultation. This conversation gives us space to talk about your situation and explore how co-parenting coaching can support your family.
- Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT
- 323-203-1526
- aurisha.smolarski@gmail.com
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Office:
3371 Glendale Blvd. Suite 214,
Los Angeles, CA 90039
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