Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids:
A Book For Parents Struggling With Shared Custody
As a parent, you want your child to feel safe, secure, and confident their needs will be met. But when you’re sharing custody, this can be difficult. You may feel lost, confused, or at war with your co-parent, and in the end, nobody wins—especially not your kid. So, how can you and your co-parent get on the same page when it comes to building a secure foundation for your child in two homes? This book will help you get started.
What People Are Saying:
“Making the case that “a good divorce is better than a bad marriage” and that, for children, growing up “with the support and care of both parents” matters more than living arrangements, this supportive parenting resource explores co-parenting, attachment styles, and family dynamics with clarity, empathy, and a wealth of fresh, practical advice.
Takeaway: Heartening, original guide for co-parents creating stability for children.”
-Publishers Weekly/Booklife
“Smolarski offers a practical and empathetic guide for separated caregivers to building a co-parenting relationship that helps kids flourish. A helpful and reassuring model of how ex-partners can put their child’s happiness first.”
-Starred Review- Kirkus Reviews
“This book is an excellent addition to the literature of marriage and family therapy. This guide is highly recommended for parents struggling to successfully collaborate in the face of separation or divorce. “
— Starred Review – Blueink Reviews
With This Practical Guide You Will:
Learn how to say goodbye to your past relationship so you can say hello to your co-parenting one.
Learn about attachment theory and how to identify your and your co-parent’s attachment styles.
Learn how to untangle your emotions to help you reduce fear and stress, and move from reacting to responding.
Learn actionable strategies grounded in attachment theory to help you improve communication, move from conflict to cooperation, and put your child’s needs first.
Learn skills to become a united front and create consistency in day-to-day routines, make sound decisions and agreements.
Learn how to stay present and mindful of your kid’s feelings and experiences so they feel safe and secure.
YOU WILL ALSO LEARN:
The 6 Cs of Cooperative Co-Parenting:
Commitment: Create certainty in the midst of change
Collaboration: Work together with a shared vision for co-parenting
Clarity: Maintain clear, concise, calm, and timely communications
Consistency: Build consistent routines in both homes
Connection: Be present to your kid’s experiences and emotions and raise a securely attached kid.
Community: Build community and support systems, and foster a sense of belonging.
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Meet the Author
Aurisha Smolarski, LMFT
Aurisha Smolarski, MA, LMFT I’m a therapist, a co-parenting coach, a mediator, and a co-parent myself. I specialize in helping families navigate the complex terrain of co-parenting and build healthy, cooperative co-parenting relationships.
Teaching people how to break up or divorce well, for the sake of their children, is what I love about my work and what led me to write Cooperative Co-Parenting for Secure Kids: The Attachment Theory Guide to Raising Kids in Two Homes. Having experienced and watched co-parents go from confusion to clarity, conflict to cooperation, and loneliness to a sense of belonging, I’m honored to empower and provide guidance to co-parents so they can do what they most want: make sure their kids thrive in two homes.
